But what is really happening?
We found an article that may help you reframe the situation and help you to control what you can – your own reactions and behaviours. Here are the main points;
- Reflect on the cause of the tension and how you are responding to it. You can do this on your own or with a trusted friend or coach to help you sort it out. View the situation from your own strengths “lens” as frustration often occurs when we can’t contribute what we are naturally good at.
- Can you spend some time understanding what the other’s person sees the situation? Seeking to understand others through a strength ‘lens” is a skill that we teach during our coaching and workshop sessions. Get deeply curious and imagine what the other person’s strengths are trying to contribute.
- Be the problem solver, not the victim or competitor. It’s important to ‘hold space’ for change to happen. Sometimes taking a deep breath and inviting others to share their ‘PeerSpective’ is a good first step.
We look forward to providing inspiration.
Louann and Stephanie
All PeerSpectives Matter
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